Dave Phillips offers these thoughts:
I think the thing that annoys me the most about big organized, corporate churches is their literal worship of “Type A” personalities. Modern mega churches today are structured like American Corporations and just like those corporations they honor and promote certain personality types and set them as “example christians” when what they are truly doing is reducing the complexity of the human christian pallete down to a bland stereo type.
“Type A” personalities tend to be great public speakers, organized, disciplined, focused, driven, etc., etc. and these are the type of people who manage to fight their way (or brown nose their way) to the top where they can show case the skills that God has given them. I honestly believe that their are some guys out there that becasue of their God given focus, discipline and drive are able to never masturbate, or even kiss their fiancee until they actually get married to them (Lord knows that I wasn’t one of them). I think they are very rare but they do exist. However, there are the rest of us minions who are different personality types, like the creative, passionate, expressive, artistic type who can write the most beautiful worship song to the Lord but maybe struggles with self control partly due to his personality type. He is looked down upon and expected to keep up with the skill set of a Judah or Dougy. I am not excusing peoples faults but hoping that we all realize that there are some people in this world who will probably never “get the victory” over masturbation (SIDE NOTE: not referring to myself, marriage really did the trick for me) and it will be a life long struggle for them just as Judah and Dougy have their faults in different areas that they will probably always struggle with. Even the Apostle Paul had a “thorn in the flesh” that God refused to remove to challenge him.
I remember Ken Malmin (who I would consider a “Type A” personality) speaking in a class and mentioning that he has always had a hard time connecting with people on an emotional level, or at least communicating that with people, and that he has greatly offended some people with this fault and it has hampered his effectivness in ministry. This is largely due, in my opinion, to his “Type A” personality which is very analytical, math oriented and generally less emotional. I figure he will always struggle with that. He may get better but he will probably always struggle with it. Now, do we want to place ourselves in the place of God and decide which is the greater sin,:the causing of the stumbling of a brother through your lack of ability to connect or a little private pocket pool in the privacy of your own bathroom. I am not making a judgment here I am simply trying to point out that we all struggle with different things on different levels and it starts to become a slippery slope when you start picking the faults that are “godly faults” and the ones that are not.
For leaders (especially youth leaders. Remember Jesus’ words about the milestone and causing a little one to falter) to stand up on a stage and rub the fact that they were victorious in a certain area (whether it be true or not) because of certain strengths that were God given to begin with in the faces of their parishoners with the end result of making them feel like a pile of shit becasue if they “really” loved God they would measure up is completely repulsive to me. In my mind it would be no different than having all the thin girls in the audience come up on stage and brag about how because of their love for Jesus they have been able to control their appetites while leaving all the poor little fat sinners down in their seats steaped in self loathing because their talent set doesn’t included a little more self control but if they could only love Jesus a little more, abide in the vine, and maybe get hyped up at a few more Generation F****** Unleashed sessions they would “get the victory.


