Honestly Speaking
Posted on September 30th, 2006 by Reformed Pope into the Uncategorized categoryHere is an email I received from Honestly, a current member of CLF, sharing her thoughts on our thoughts:
Honestly it was really hard to come upon this site and read the harshness of what people were saying about someone who has made such a difference in so many lives. I don't wish to continue to make comments on the blog, as it will do no good for anyone. People who have no idea of incidents that led to the situation at hand are forming the most negative opinions about Pastor Doug, and that was very bothersome to me. To entertain comments any further would only discourage me more.
You've got to understand that this is my home, my church, my family and to see comment after comment which drag people through the mud and back again is very heartbreaking. I agree that the way it has been handled from the very beginning is out of line. From the way the elders approached the situation down to how the congregation found out (the newspaper) was all inappropriate.
And truthfully, I don't believe people would like to hear the other side. People feed on garbage and gossip, not on truth. From the comments that have been made after mine, it is apparent that people only want to see the negative. What people do not realize is that the people involved are having huge tolls taken on their lives. Not just Pastor Doug, but the elders, their wives, and the people who have been allegedly abused and their families. The kind of trash talking that is going on all over the place is only adding to the situation, really. My heart truly goes out to everyone who is involved.
I understand that I do not have to read your blogs or respond to them, but I thought maybe if I could just say one little thing that could trigger others to stop ripping apart Doug Cotton even for a moment, it would be worth writing a comment. I have since realized it will not help, but on the contrary make it worse. People have put words in my mouth "Then you enhance your credibility by saying the only reason we smell a rat here is because we're blinded by bitterness" which is FAR from what I said. Someone even compared Doug to Saddam Hussein. WOW! That's a little over the line, wouldn't you say? People don't stop to think about what they are saying and what affects it will have on others that "stop" by your site. I understand and agree with "free speech" but WOW…come on, don't you think sometimes the free speech goes a little too far with some of the blogs?
I am not offended, but merely saddened by what others believe to be true about my Pastor. I have watched him with people for a long time and know first hand the love that he demonstrates over and over again, unselfishly serving anyone he comes in contact with. Doug will be the first to admit he has issues to work on. We all do. He openly asks for forgiveness when he has offended or hurt others. I am not taking sides but I pray that the truth will be revealed before it is too late. People's lives are at stake, it's not just the latest gossip around town.
Thank you for your time as I know you probably get tons of responses a day to go through….
And this was my response:
Honestly,
I understand that this is a very emotional and difficult time for everyone involved. It is very unfortunate. I hope that you can see that the majority of the bloggers are not trying to pass judgment on CLF or Pastor Cotton. We really don't have any clue what has happened there.
Our issues are with MFI, and yes, they stem from past experiences. The fact that this story got published in a paper is what, along with the letters sent out, in my opinion, make it a public story. This is why we write about it. We really feel that many of today's Christian churches have become corrupted by a desire for power and fame. Our goal is to bring these issues out to the public for debate, in hopes to raise awareness of the situation. Sometimes our readers are stupid and say things that I don't agree with, but we are not interested in censoring everyone. While many people disagree with our methods we feel they have been somewhat effective.
I really hope your church can resolve whatever issues they have on all sides. Again, I'm sorry if what we have done offends you, it was not you or your pastor that we have issues with. I really appreciate you taking the time to share your thoughts with me. Church is such a personal place for all of us and things like this are never easy.
-JP
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