Spanking your Wife for God
Posted on August 24th, 2007 by catalyst into the Christian Pop Culture categoryYou gotta check out this website that promotes loving wife spanking.
It's called Christian Domestic Discipline.
A domestic discipline marriage is one in which one partner in the marriage is given authority over the other and has the means to back the authority, usually by spanking.
A Christian Domestic Discipline marriage is set up according to Biblical standards; that is, the husband is the authority in the household. He has the authority to spank his wife for punishment, but in real CDD marriages this is taken very seriously and usually happens only rarely.
And to really get you in the mood, here is a wife's desciption of her recent Discipline:
I'm not kidding, I felt my stomach drop when I saw my husband bring out a heavy belt. It is one of those old ones that came with a silver buckle and had a name stamped on it. He doesn't wear it much anymore because it is to heavy for style today. I only got seven, which I have to admit I thought was lenient although I was howling the whole time. I don't get a discipline often and it is amazing how quickly I forget how much it hurts–just a blinding pain.
Unbelievable! And kinda kinky.
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August 24th, 2007 at 6:38 am
Whatever happened to our old reader friend, Jiminy? I think this would make her head explode!
August 24th, 2007 at 7:09 am
Eh, careful guys, some women retaliate.
August 24th, 2007 at 7:47 am
I hope MfI doesn’t get wind of this! It’s sounds like something they would be interested in. They’ve already got the “husband is the authority “part.
August 24th, 2007 at 8:50 am
This makes me sick to my stomach.
Not much different that people in countries like India, where they set the wife on fire, or Iran where they stone the wife.
Any woman that would allow themself to live in this type of environment does not have a sense of self.
August 24th, 2007 at 11:25 am
I wonder why they are selling “Satin and Lace Crotchless Pantaloons” on their website?
Oh, I would guess because of this comment:
“Eroticism:
Though we recognize by its very nature this subject can be erotic, we will keep this website as clean and wholesome as possible. However, we will not seek to deny the erotic nature of some CDD marriages as we believe it is a natural consequence of following God’s plan. After all, He created eroticism to be enjoyed inside a Christian marriage.”
Which was, of course, preceeded by this comment:
“In CDD, the husband has authority to spank the wife.
The wife does not have authority to spank her husband.”
Face it, this is a bunch of men who like swatting their wives for erotic purposes and are distorting the Bible to back up their desires.
August 24th, 2007 at 11:33 am
Yeah. That’s exactly it.
August 24th, 2007 at 12:16 pm
Glad my husband doesn’t read the blog! lol…
August 24th, 2007 at 1:01 pm
wow. kinky kinky kinky.
I knew that people could make scripture fit anything they wanted to believe, but S&M is a new one for me!
But at least they have some standards when it comes to the romance novels they shill:
oh baby, I hereby soap you in the name of the L-rd J-s-s Chr-st
Maybe I could join their guitar or worship life groups:
http://www.northjerseyvineyard.org/churchlife/lifegroups.html
August 24th, 2007 at 1:01 pm
Domestic violence ….. she should call the cops
August 24th, 2007 at 1:15 pm
I’d be willing to bet my tithe that the women authors are merely pseudonyms for men who fantasize about practicing CDD. The blog where the woman details her punishment also details her diet results including her current weight. What real woman would do that???
August 24th, 2007 at 1:17 pm
http://christiandomesticdiscipline.com/Glossary.html
I defy ANYONE to read their glossary of tems without recognizing this for what it really IS.
August 24th, 2007 at 3:11 pm
I truly don’t know whether to be sick or laugh till i pass out. Perhaps I’ll do both. Imagine a bunch of doe-eyed sm types “belting” out hymns. I will dominate for jesus bumper stickers…..this is really just too fertile of a subject.
August 24th, 2007 at 3:39 pm
It ain’t right man. It just ain’t right. I am speechless.
August 24th, 2007 at 4:31 pm
So… what does one have to do in order to be disciplined?
August 24th, 2007 at 6:51 pm
Sooo freaky you posted this. I was coming here to see if you posted anything on Paula Whit getting divorced or Juanita Bynum getting beat up by her busband. These clowns are getting exposed left and right.
August 24th, 2007 at 10:33 pm
Something that has come up here recently is asking for a spanking. That has always been allowed in our DD relationship. I can ask for a BG if I am feeling guilty about something, a stress-buster, a reminder, or even a GG. And I have before. The only rule we have in place on that is once I’ve asked, I cannot change my mind or back out.
Now, this sounds easy, right? Need a spanking, just ask. Nope, it’s not. It’s hard! For one thing, Helloooo! Spankings hurt! And it seems that when I know I need one the most, my stubborn pride kicks in. It would appear that I would rather earn one through misbehavior than admit my need for one.
Well, once again, we are out to umm… “cure” this. For the next two weeks, I have to ask for a spanking everyday sometime between the time he gets home from work and 9 pm. If I fail to do this, it will classify as disobedience and as you can see from yesterday’s post, he is not giving me any wiggle room with that either. So, not only will failure to comply earn me a disobedience spanking, I will then be required to ask for two spankings the following day.
The idea here is to overcome my pride at asking for a spanking and trusting that he will know or ask what I need. So, I have to ask, not knowing and trust him to do it. So, I could receive a punishment type spanking, a GG, a reminder, or even just a light spanking to show he’s paying attention.
Yesterday, I was bound and determined to start this well. I went up to him as soon as we had a free minute and told him I was ready. Apparently, that does not count as asking for a spanking. “Are you asking me for something?” he says. “You’re not really going to make me say it out loud, are you?” I question. “Yes, I am. That’s why it’s called asking for a spanking.” I tried to use the excuse that there were kids in the room, but he told me I could whisper it in his ear if I needed to ask him something. After being told more than once to ask for it, I chose to leave the room instead. So, when I finally did make myself ask, he informed me that I had also earned a disobedience spanking for not asking like he told me to.
After the spanking I asked for, he carried out my spanking for disobedience and then told me I had five minutes to put everything away and gather myself. Five minutes came and he came in to find me just starting to put things away. Remember, no wiggle room, so the strap came back out and I tearfully lowered my panties once again and received double what he had just given me. Needless to say, my next five minute warning was carefully heeded and I did as I was told.
This is not going to be easy!
Why in the world would people spend their time doing this?? Am I missing something?!?
August 25th, 2007 at 3:52 am
anom —
LOL. Great sense of humor…you’re hubby’s a lucky guy!
Seriously, on a similar note, I remember back about 30 or so years ago when AA was a pastor over in Bend, he told us how he used to “discipline” his kids using what he referred to as the “scriptural method,” which consisted of giving them 39 whacks, from a board, I believe! Seriously. Can you believe that?
Child abuse, it my book, period. I’d be rather interested in knowing how his kids turned out.
I later heard KRI eventually succeeded in convincing him to lower the count substantially, to 7, max, I think it was.
-joeb
August 25th, 2007 at 5:04 am
AA was nuts. But I think I recall hearing that his kids turned out fine.
August 25th, 2007 at 6:24 am
This sounds like abuse and grounds for divorce!
What’s wrong with these men?
Why do these women allow it?
Word
August 25th, 2007 at 11:10 am
That’s good to hear.
August 25th, 2007 at 12:13 pm
joebib:
Is this the same AA that’s now in Beaverton? I used to babysit his kids back in the day. No wonder they were so perfect!
As for the article: it’s sick. I can’t see the Lord thinking this is the proper way for men and women to relate — and even worse, write about. (retch)
I was regularly
disciplinedabused with a belt when I was young, as were my little sisters. None of us would accept this from a spouse, never, ever. I left home at 15 because of it — and they probably would have too except that he up and left them first.Men who do this to women and children are evil.
(Gee, this article touched a sore spot!)
grace
August 25th, 2007 at 1:02 pm
I should clarify that AA was not nuts. It would be more accurate to say he was a bit extreme.
August 27th, 2007 at 8:28 am
that’s hot
August 28th, 2007 at 6:49 am
Sorry, I know this was a while back ago, but I felt the need to comment… But an abused woman WOULD do that.
August 28th, 2007 at 2:04 pm
HAHAHAHAHAHA! This is so funny….
There is no denying that women were considered second class citizens by OT Biblical law. If the Bible says you can literally beat your children and your “servants” (slaves), then it’s not a far reach to beat your wives.
August 29th, 2007 at 1:06 pm
catalyst: I have a complaint. this wife spanking deal sounds like an excuse for these people to get their kicks from discussing Christian porn.
I think this discussion is KINKY
August 30th, 2007 at 11:57 am
I have read past blogs and the comments about sexual positions, doing it, how many times etc. show that a some of our brothers and sisters have a problem with lust of the flesh. A thread like this only helps to feed their desires and we should not be writing about it. If we cause one of these brothers to stumble, is it worth it?
August 30th, 2007 at 1:27 pm
Word in time……Is that you Wouldy? Hiding behind your ’stage name’ again? Shame on you!
After telling the rest of us that you and two others were the only ones with any credibility because you had the courage to use your ‘real names’ ?
Well Wouldy, I hate say it but your credibility just went down the toilet!
August 30th, 2007 at 1:28 pm
Sounds like a confession to me.
August 30th, 2007 at 2:22 pm
I don’t know if they if they were confessing or not. That is between them and god.
December 3rd, 2007 at 10:33 am
Sounds like some of us have a problem with “subjection” to our husbands. Now I’m not one who encourages wives to submit to brutality, but if you are in subjection, you will submit to what is fair, and to the rules set up between husband and wife. I’ve been married for 12 years, and live according to “wives, be in subjection to your husbands”.
I ALWAYS know what to expect, NEVER surprised, because the rules NEVER change. I am “middle aged” (guess
) and have NEVER been paddled unless I deserved it, or broke one of the rules we established as a “corporal punishment infraction”. I will say, the paddling leaves me EXTREMELY sore, and burns like it did in school, and is MUCH more humiliating as a grown woman to have to follow the instructions in getting prepared for the paddle.
I would say, on average, I have NEVER been paddled more than once a week, but I WILL say, I have NEVER asked for a paddling. I WILL submit to any infraction I have committed and T K has knowledge of. I will NOT lie, if asked about an infraction. The infractions range from a simple seven lick punishment, and I have received (only once thank God) sixty licks over a period of one hour. That hurt beyond words.
This works for us, but may not work for ANYONE else. I take pride in making my husband smile. He also goes the extra mile for me, and I will do NOTHING that would jeopardize our relationship. I just know that when T K gets home today, he has informed me that I over-spent the budget last week, and that I will be freindly with the paddle twenty-four times, with palms flat on the little stool. I dare say, I won’t do that again for a long time,
December 3rd, 2007 at 12:42 pm
Lea— You are one sick lady. If what you wrote is actually true… your husband is one sick puppy too.
December 3rd, 2007 at 1:33 pm
living life, I said it is most likely not for everyone. What is “normal” today? If you knew the harmony within the walls of this home, you would not be so accusatory. I am madly in love with T K, and he with me. NEVER has a wife been treated like a queen in any way, more that I. We just choose to handle conflict in a “set” pattern, with the “consequences” FULLY set forth, IN ADVANCE. It is a matter of “choices”,,,,, if I make a wrong choice, I know the price-tag. Just like when you go to the store, get milk, you know the price. You DON’T have to get the milk. I knew what I was doing last week, and KNEW the consequences would be twenty-four licks, I knew the position, the dress requirement, and the humiliation involved, along with the pain. I weighed that against what I wanted to purchase, and chose. It’s not like we did not have the money. We do NOT hurt financially, I just have a budget, and must adhere or suffer the paddle. I was over the budget by $240, thus $10 per lick with the paddle, I KNEW full well what awaits, and chose to make the purchase.
If you do not feel this is “sane” to live the way I choose, no-one forces ANYONE. I have freedom, my own vehicle, am free to do what I enjoy, as long as it does not cross any of the boundries we both agreed to. Have you and your husband EVER had a “fight”? I would dare say, if so, YOU may not have handled things the way others would. This works for my husband and myself, and I love the results of being in “subjection” to my Prince, and he loves his Princess, and NEVER fails to show it. One thing for sure, WE will not be in court fighting in a divorce.
I guess many do NOT believe in “punishment” any more. It’s just like when you speed in your vehicle, you KNOW the WRITTEN consequence is a hefty fine, and your insurance increases, yet it is choice. So, if you know the price for the action, and you feel the consequence to speeding is not so bad provided you get where you are going on time, it is YOUR choice. BUT the punishment is ALREADY spelled out.
I dare say many here have NEVER been spanked, and feel it is in-humane to even spank children. Sad, no wonder we have police officers in every junior high school in America. I have NEVER had a speeding ticket, so my lifestyle harms NO-ONE. It certainly doesn’t harm me. Oh, it burns like my bottom is ablaze, but that passes in a day or so usually, but only makes me wish I had made better choices.
December 3rd, 2007 at 1:53 pm
Lea,
Anyone who equates voluntary excessive physical pain with love and affection is in need of psychiatric help. Your story clearly demonstrates that you want to be physically punished in order to experience a closer bond with your husband. You misbehaved on purpose knowing it would create an opportunity to interact with your husband. It was simply a means of getting the attention you crave so desperately. That is and never will be healthy or normal, and you’re not going to convince anyone here that it’s OK. Any man who enjoys hurting his wife is not a good husband.
Jesus accepted a terrible beating in order that you wouldn’t have to.
December 3rd, 2007 at 2:07 pm
Troll bait, me thinks …
Funniest blog statement candidate there … “no-one forces anyone” says she on the receiving end of a 24 “licks” with a paddle.
Since the scripture that tells women to submit to their husbands, is PRECEDED by “Submit to ONE ANOTHER” (Ephesians 5:21), and followed with “Husbands, lay down your life for your wife, the way Christ laid down his life for the Church” (Ephesians 5:25) … I have to wonder IF Lea’s paddle-happy hubby practices what he preaches?
Specifically, since scripture makes it clear that submission is MUTUAL, and Christ’s example for the husband to follow is to take upon HIMSELF the punished meted out to others, I wonder how many times Lea’s hubby has submitted himself to the punishment intended for Lea?
Or is submission and Christ-likeness just a one way ticket in such marriages?
Sam
December 3rd, 2007 at 5:32 pm
Lea- so do you guys have some sort of price or score sheet set up ahead of time? For instance if you DID CHOOSE to get a “SPEEDING ticket” how MUCH “PUNISHMENT” would you “receive”? Or what if you didn’t WASH the DISHES?
December 4th, 2007 at 1:59 am
Me too.
-joe
December 4th, 2007 at 9:59 am
Thanks for all the concern. It does my heart good to know so many care. Thanks Samaritan for your heartfelt concern. I would dare say your concern should be for people like Juanita Bynum, who was “beaten” by her husband. I am not “beaten”. There IS a difference, but I can see it is a waste of time to share that with you. When people are fixed that their interpretation of something is different, we ALL feel WE are the one that is right. I KNOW I am right, this has worked flawlessly for over 12 years for us, and I would put my marriage up against ANY of you who feel this is wrong. Just know, I am Blessed to be in the marriage of my dreams, have the husband I always dreamed of, and be living an abundant life, so much better than the lost wives in this world. Many do not know what real contentment and peace and love is. Sad.
Ladies, you keep living your lives according to the Scriptures as you see them, and if that works for you as well as mine and T K’s marriage, you will be more than Blessed. And the answer to your question, which you are wondering right about now, I’m all paid up, and soooo Glad.
I just hope you wives have at least half the joy, and love and blessings I enjoy, if so, don’t look down on me. I love this life, and enjoy everything about it. I wish the same for you, but in YOUR own way of joy…….. Lea
December 4th, 2007 at 10:56 am
Dear Lea,
I’m certain you will agree that substitutionary atonement is the central message of the gospel, no? Us husbands are commanded to do the same for our wifes, that Christ did for the church: i.e., gave himself over to punishment in our place (Ephesians 5:25).
So, when was the last time your husband took upon himself the punishment you had coming to you?
Thanks for answering! Sam
December 4th, 2007 at 11:05 am
Lea,
“It’s not your fault.”
“It’s not your fault.”
“It’s not your fault.”
-Sean Maguire
December 4th, 2007 at 12:15 pm
Lea, it may work for you, but that does not make it Biblical.
… and what do you mean by “dress requirement”?
December 4th, 2007 at 2:57 pm
I suggest that topics be closed to new posting after 3 months or some such thing. This getting rehashed by trolls over and over is pretty lame.
If Lea likes being treated like an imbecile by her even greater imbecile husband and pretend it is in the name of God, so be it. They are kookier than SPFD, et. al.
BUT… do you really think she is true in what she says or feeding us all a line to see what happens??
December 5th, 2007 at 6:20 am
I think she’s legit. I think she’s a bit of a sadomasochist, and she uses the Bible to justify it in her mind.
And honsetly, if you’re into being dominated during sex, I’m cool with it. Though, I don’t really want to hear about.
I just find it odd though that she uses the Bible as justification. That part creeps me out to be honest.
Anyway, if it continues to feel like a post that’s just being trolled, I can end it.
December 5th, 2007 at 9:30 am
You don’t have to worry about me messing up your site again. It is obvious that everyone feels I am a troll, and “sick”. That is alright. I hope you all have a Glorious Christmas, and that God grants you the desire of your heart. God Bless,,,,,,, Lea
December 5th, 2007 at 2:22 pm
So Lea, What happens to your husband when he makes a wrong choice? Do you have any agreed upon rules for that?
December 5th, 2007 at 6:02 pm
I think this subject is like picking your nose or breaking wind;
do it in private and keep your mouth shut. No one wants to hear about it.
Lea, didn’t your mother ever tell you it was none of the neighbor’s business what you and your husband did behind closed doors? Shame on you for your exhibitionism!
May 29th, 2008 at 10:11 am
I will get a paddling if I need it from my wonderful, loving, hard working husband. It was my idea. We were fighting alot because I would do things I knew were wrong then get defensive. Our last arguement broke my heart. I wrote a bad check on purpose because I wanted cable TV. He said I could go to jail and wanted to know what he was suppose to do w/o me. Now, he will paddle me if I get out of control and I have enough respect for him to accept it and move on!! no more arguments. I am 41 by the way……
May 29th, 2008 at 12:06 pm
I have not read this whole post. BUT, are you serious?????
September 6th, 2008 at 1:46 pm
We practice it sometimes in our marriage. Not punishment more as foreplay just using hands. It does add something to it sometimes.
Blondie
September 6th, 2008 at 6:52 pm
Blondie said:
September 6th, 2008 at 1:46 pm
We practice it sometimes in our marriage. Not punishment more as foreplay just using hands. It does add something to it sometimes.
Blondie
Blondie is the perfect name for you that’s for sure! Get a clue! I agree with Just Curious.
Just Curious said:
December 5th, 2007 at 6:02 pm
I think this subject is like picking your nose or breaking wind;
do it in private and keep your mouth shut. No one wants to hear about it.
Lea, didn’t your mother ever tell you it was none of the neighbor’s business what you and your husband did behind closed doors? Shame on you for your exhibitionism.
September 6th, 2008 at 7:31 pm
Ridiculous. I’ve heard of it. Comparing it to picking your nose is pretty funny. The only problem I have is when they expect everyone else to do it because it’s the “biblical” and right way.
I dont want to know what happens behind closed doors. A persons sex life is none of my business and I dont want to know.
September 7th, 2008 at 1:13 am
The fact of the matter is these people are just plain nuts or they are a bunch of junior high kids having a good time messing with people on a blog. The immaturity is astounding.
What cult does this crap come out of? And who is the MAN (leader) who thought up this one? Hilarious!
They need to call the Jerry Springer show and get in front of an audience that would appreciate this sort of thing.
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September 7th, 2008 at 10:26 am
Sorry if I offended anyone. I thought the subject was being discussed and chipped in. Obviously a bad idea.
September 8th, 2008 at 12:14 pm
Never a bad idea to chip in…no matter if others agree or disagree. That’s the point. I like an opinion of ideas brought to the table, just don’t get upset when people don’t agree.