Recently, I posted an article entitled, “The 3 Dirty Words of a Mega Church Pastor.” Someone brought my article to the attention of the pastor I named in it, i.e., Pastor Ted Roberts of East Hill Family Church (Gresham, Oregon). Pastor Ted posted a strong disagreement to my article with the words, "I challenge you to post this response and speak with me directly." Ted’s response had already been posted, and I happily met with him on May 22. I brought a very good friend to the appointment with me. Here is what happened:
1-Ted told me that he “had no doubt” that what I posted was accurate, as far as his former church employee understood him to have said about platform protocol. Ted believed that his former church employee, Will (name changed) had told me that he understood Ted to have forbidden the 3 words "sin, hell and repentance" from being spoken from the platform at East Hill Family Church.
2-Notwithstanding, Ted further explained that even though Will had understood him in this way, that as the senior pastor of East Hill, Ted had never forbad the words "sin, hell or repentance" from the church platform. He did want everyone on the platform, however, to have tears in their eyes when/if they were ever to use the word “hell” – “like Jesus did,” Ted said.
3-Furthermore, Ted explained that he personally believed in using the words "sin, hell and repentance" both theologically as well as ministerially. Ministerially, Ted is now traveling with his book and seminar, Pure Desire, calling Christians to repent from sexual sins so that, as Ted explained: true revival might come to the Church.
4-The mistake I made, as Ted pointed out to me, was that I posted what Will had understood Ted to have said without first running it by Ted. I did this because Will was a very credible source to me, but this was a mistake in judgment. I sincerely apologized to Ted, and he gladly received my apology and we parted on very good terms. I also apologize to this blogging community.
5-For clarification purposes, before I composed this follow-up article, I asked Ted whether he ever had had a platform policy that forbad certain language being used in the church services. He wrote back to me these words:
“Once again, I cannot comment about what a 'former staff member' may have said I said. I just know I didn't put any overt or implied restrictions on sharing from the pulpit other that it be truth (biblical-practical truth) expressed with compassion and grace. I don't communicate that clearly at times and we are all in desperate need of a Savior every single day of our lives—so I have long ago stopped trying to get everyone one to fully understand me. I am just trying to love and help get as many folks as I can get healed. You don't have to run your comments past me. I am sure you will communicate as clearly and truthfully as you possibly can. In His Love, Ted”
6-I spoke with another former East Hill Family Church employee, Craig (name changed), who worked with Ted for many years. Craig told me this about “The 3 Dirty Words…”: “The short answer is there was no implicit directive…. but also it is important to acknowledge what I would call (un-written but strongly implied "no-go" language).” Surprisingly, Craig also wrote, “Much of this actually originated with me.”
7-Ted shared with me that there was a very redemptive event that came out of the posting of my article. It was the fact that he and another estranged brother got together and found reconciliation in Christ. When my friend and I heard this, we gave God thanks.
I was very impressed with how Ted came onto the blog using his real name and challenged my article. This gave me the opportunity in Part 2 to give the other necessary side of the story. I was also very impressed with Ted during our meeting. He was gracious, honest, respectful and kind both to us as well as to Will. At the end of the appointment, all of us prayed together.
God brought much unexpected good from my first article. Not only did it create the opportunity for Ted to reconcile with a person who had sadly been estranged from him, I, a City Business Church (CBC) blogger who has come out very strongly against some senior pastors for operating like “pastor-kings,” am now posting a very positive report about Pastor Ted from my own meeting with him.
Maybe this can be a beginning of reconciliation between some CBC bloggers and pastors. My hope is that more CBC bloggers would admit when they do not fairly give both sides to a story. I pray that more pastors would follow Ted’s example by coming onto the blog using their real names inviting us to meetings of deeper understanding and reconciliation.
P.S. I will be taking a sabbatical from this blog in order to finish my book against The Mandatory Tithe. I will let you know when copies are available. Blessings to all!
Galatians 5:1,
David