We all read them. Those one time drive by posts about how "no church is perfect", statements saying "my pastor is only human" and the inevitable "our church is great so just get over your bitterness already." These statements usually stir up those old feelings of anger and take many of us back to the years of spiritual abuse we endured under such ignorance. I mean let's face it, the issue of bad pastors and mismanagement of money is the main reason why this blog continues to exist. If CBC and other MFI churches would clean up their act, there would be less need for us to continue. But every 6 to 9 months it seems like we get another influx of stories about a particular church and/or pastor abusing people. Over the years we've hit hard on CBC, TCC, CCC, ACC and now we have the awful COTH in the mix. So for those who make such comments, I've listed a few questions below that a person should be asking about their church and to their pastor. (And if our readers have any good one's they've asked before, please feel free to post and I can add them in).
1. Does your pastor or has your pastor done anything else in life besides pastor? Do they, or have they ever had a "real" job outside the church?
Reason: Usually those that have worked outside the church understand people better and know how to interact with others in the real world. Also they have some work skills and aren't solely dependent on the church for survival, which is important to the church using its money for other things besides supporting people's livelihood.
2. Is the pastor/church leadership open about the church's financials? How many salaries does the church pay? Where does all the money go? What are the biggest areas of expense? Are there any outside organizations or charities, apart from the church, the church supports?
Reason: The key to a financially sound church is accountability. If a church is open about it's financials it usually means they are not misappropriating funds. The more secretive a church is, the more likely there are problems. If your church does not open the books to the congregation at least once a year or speak openly about where the money goes, you should not be giving your money to them.
3. Do other members feel pressure to tithe? Are there people who attend your church on a regular basis who don't think tithing is mandatory?
Reason: The mindset of church members is key to determining what kind of church you attend. If people feel like they have to give all the time, and are fed guilt trips for not giving then it usually means the church is one that makes money a top priority, which in turn means its not a gospel centered church.
4. Are people free to leave your church as God guides? Does leadership give people who leave a hard time for it?
Reason: Leadership that feels like it has to hold onto members and control what church they go to is not good leadership. Pastors who understand it's God's job to lead peoples lives are the best kind of pastors you can find. Try telling your pastor (or one of his sidekicks) you are thinking of going to another church and pay close attention to how they respond. If they say, “I’m sorry to see you go, but that’s between you and God not me,” then you probably have pretty good leadership.
5. Is it OK to ask questions in your church? If your pastor is preaching a message or series on a specific topic (i.e. money) are you encouraged or discouraged from asking questions? If you disagree with something your pastor teaches, is there an opportunity for you to reach the pastor for clarity?
Reason: Pastors who have a "closed door" policy for members who disagree with them are not good pastors. Churches that don't foster a democracy but rather run like a dictatorship on a "take it or leave it basis" are generally churches you want to leave.